Believe You are Enough!
You are more powerful than you think! You can be truly happy–even if you don’t think so now. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes you need someone to show you the way. I have been there…I can walk with you and show you a better way, a way where you trust yourself, your instincts, and others.
You are strong enough! You are worth enough! YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Realizing how much work it takes to heal or navigate life with an addict can feel overwhelming and lonely. I am here to tell you – you are not alone. There is hope and healing available, if you choose to invest in yourself.
I did not grow up thinking I would be the wife of an addict or that I would have a (now ex) husband who was unfaithful. No one prepared me for that. So, when I discovered my ex-husband’s infidelity and pornography addiction, the shock and fear were debilitating. I was confused–not knowing how I felt, or not really feeling at all. Even my faith in God wavered, and I felt shame from that.
I was left wondering what to do and unsure where to begin. I remember believing that if he would just change and get better, then I would feel better. I now understand that feeling better is not contingent on his choices, and neither was my healing.
Learning to recognize when you are NOT grounded, centered and in the present is half the battle. This can be difficult to do at first, so no self judgement here! Being aware of how this shows up for you is the first step. We discuss some common signs that can give us this warning.
How trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them.
When you have been a victim of someone else’s choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it’s understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it’s a place we can often judge ourselves in.
Sometimes when things are not going as planned, we lose our trust in men, in friends, in clergy, in God, and in ourselves. I often hear women say, “I just don’t trust anyone.”
What if… you honored what your brain is doing – trying to protect you and help you see there is a reason to not trust. What if… it’s okay not to trust right now. What if… you just allowed yourself to honor the space you are in rather than thinking you have to or are supposed to be trusting.
The truth is, you are a trusting person and you had someone take advantage of that trust. Right now, its okay to allow space to just get your bearings again, to get a better grip on your own reality, and then… then we start the work of learning to trust again.
And guess what? It begins with trusting yourself!
No more second guessing your gut instinct. You CAN be in a place where you are so in tune with your body, your thoughts, and your feelings that you learn to trust again.
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