Realizing how much work it takes to heal or navigate life with an addict can feel overwhelming and lonely. I am here to tell you – you are not alone. There is hope and healing available, if you choose to invest in yourself.
I did not grow up thinking I would be the wife of an addict or that I would have a (now ex) husband who was unfaithful. No one prepared me for that. So, when I discovered my ex-husband’s infidelity and pornography addiction, the shock and fear were debilitating. I was confused–not knowing how I felt, or not really feeling at all. Even my faith in God wavered, and I felt shame from that.
I was left wondering what to do and unsure where to begin. I remember believing that if he would just change and get better, then I would feel better. I now understand that feeling better is not contingent on his choices, and neither was my healing.