As a certified, therapist-approved life coach, I have worked with hundreds of women who are experiencing betrayal trauma, abuse and divorce. When you have experienced PTSD due to your partners infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it’s chipped away at your sense of empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after trauma is another level of hard. My goal is to help women navigate divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. I offer tools to practice each week and you will hear interviews from other women who have tapped into their power to move forward and thrive!
We have a manual for our children, our spouse, our family, and even one for the holidays. Instructions for how they should or shouldn’t behave, what they should say or NOT say, how things should go and what we should do and how we should react…
We are told how it’s not good to ask “Why” when something happens in out life that’s tragic or hard. What if it’s ok, what if there is nothing wrong with thinking and feeling this?
We actually need hard things in order to grow our brain. When we don’t practice thinking harder thoughts we will continue to get the same result.
Sometimes people think that because I am a life coach that I have all thee tools and concepts mastered and therefore my brain doesn’t work like everyone else’s brain.
How many of you have triggers and hate them? How many times have you shamed yourself or blamed someone for your trauma response?
Triggers are a very real part of trauma and learning how to respond to your triggers is a huge part of the healing journey.
We often look at self care as a to do list- things we have to do to care for ourselves. Our brain likes to then point out to us all the things we are not doing to care for ourselves…
There is no doubt pornography effects the marriage relationship in so many ways that you may not have even realized yet. Whether you are just
This is a scary word to so many- Pornography isn’t going away and we are learning more and more about how it can be addictive
I remember feeling like I had to respond and answer and correct and clarify every email, every text and it was exhausting. It consumed my
If you have experienced Betrayal in your life, from a relationship, this is no joke and extremely painful . We are born with the innate
I do my best to debunk all the excuses that we make for not implementing self care into our healing and into our lives. Let
Are you having a hard time believing this? I did too. So many women do and those who have experienced betrayal trauma and abuse experience
When you really start latching on to this new world of learning and understanding your trauma and addiction, finding safe circles and safe people and really start to put the puzzle pieces together it starts to create this level of understanding awareness and safety, and It becomes this huge relief!
Self Betrayal is saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” self sabotaging, ignoring basic needs and self care, lying to yourself, not taking accountability for your actions, and pretending to be something other than your authentic self.
Guest Kristen Watson talks about how often women feel they not only have no idea what their style even is anymore or feel overwhelm when they go shopping which often leads right to self hate, body hate and we stop looking at ourselves. Women have more negative self talk in the dressing room than any other place we go!
Learning to recognize when you are NOT grounded, centered and in the present is half the battle. This can be difficult to do at first, so no self judgement here! Being aware of how this shows up for you is the first step. We discuss some common signs that can give us this warning.
How trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them.
When you have been a victim of someone else’s choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it’s understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it’s a place we can often judge ourselves in.
Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn’t stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong.
Two of Amie’s clients talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again.
Amie and Alana continue their conversation to those who have loved ones that are trying to understand more of what you, the betrayed, are experiencing. Sometimes it’s hard to put into words when you yourself are still trying to figure it out! So we hope that this episode also helps you too.
When we are healing from betrayal trauma, whether you are still married or not, we can become consumed with all the learning and healing tools
When is the right time to divorce? How will I know? Million dollar question right? This is the most difficult decision as we have been
Amie had been married for 18 years before she came to understand why her marriage was falling apart. Her ex-husband’s addictions and abuse had caused
When I found out about my (now ex) husband’s betrayal, it was hard for me to think of the past and to think of our
I know, I know, you are thinking yeah right I’m never dating again! Or maybe you want to but are afraid to trust again and make
When we have experienced betrayal or trauma or abuse, it can often result in ways that limit us in other relationships and future relationships. If
Every divorce is different and every child is different and everyone is going to have different thoughts about all of it. And that’s okay. However
Divorce brings so many thoughts of loss from the life beliefs that we have all had. I share some thoughts about a few of those
Are you having a hard time believing this? I did too. So many women do and those who have experienced betrayal trauma and abuse experience
Sometimes when things are not going as planned, we lose our trust in men, in friends, in clergy, in God, and in ourselves. I often hear women say, “I just don’t trust anyone.”
What if… you honored what your brain is doing – trying to protect you and help you see there is a reason to not trust. What if… it’s okay not to trust right now. What if… you just allowed yourself to honor the space you are in rather than thinking you have to or are supposed to be trusting.
The truth is, you are a trusting person and you had someone take advantage of that trust. Right now, its okay to allow space to just get your bearings again, to get a better grip on your own reality, and then… then we start the work of learning to trust again.
And guess what? It begins with trusting yourself!
No more second guessing your gut instinct. You CAN be in a place where you are so in tune with your body, your thoughts, and your feelings that you learn to trust again.
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