As a certified, therapist-approved life coach, I have worked with hundreds of women who are experiencing betrayal trauma, abuse and divorce. When you have experienced PTSD due to your partners infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it’s chipped away at your sense of empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after trauma is another level of hard. My goal is to help women navigate divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. I offer tools to practice each week and you will hear interviews from other women who have tapped into their power to move forward and thrive!
As I stared into these little puppy dog eyes feeling so frustrated that she wouldn’t do what I wanted her to do, I realized that I could feel frustrated, or choose to feel love.
When we can’t control things in our lies it’s easy to let the negative emotions of that overcome us. It’s hard sometimes to choose love.
Today I share some thoughts about how to do this and who it really benefits.
Our ability to grow is only limited by our Self Doubt. So what are you afraid of if you make this change or set this goal? What is your brain making it mean if you stop doing something that you have been doing for years?! Why is it doubting your ability to change this thing?
Women are wondering how to trust not only their spouse again but how to trust themselves again.
You might have a partner that is doing the work and getting the help but how do we go about trusting again? do I trust him? When do I start trusting him?
The word GRIEF alone creates some negative emotions, let alone actually experiencing all the emotions that are apart of the grief cycle. It’s something that we all as humans try to avoid at every cost!
In remembrance of 9-11-21 the word FREEDOM came to mind. More specifically, FREEDOM from abuse. There are many ways that we do not exercise our freedom. The freedom to have a voice, to feel, to change our minds and so forth. I see more and more cases of abuse and notice how many woman minimize their abuse.
I want to share thoughts about how we can lean into our pain and how it will actually help us to have less suffering. If you want help with the steps you can take to lean into your pain and let it move through you then lets chat.
Divorce brings so many thoughts of loss from the life beliefs that we have all had. I share some thoughts about a few of those
Every divorce is different and every child is different and everyone is going to have different thoughts about all of it. And that’s okay. However
When we have experienced betrayal or trauma or abuse, it can often result in ways that limit us in other relationships and future relationships. If
I know, I know, you are thinking yeah right I’m never dating again! Or maybe you want to but are afraid to trust again and make
When I found out about my (now ex) husband’s betrayal, it was hard for me to think of the past and to think of our
When is the right time to divorce? How will I know? Million dollar question right? This is the most difficult decision as we have been
This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner,
Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn’t doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression…
The importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand, and where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more.
Boundaries are what I will do or will not do to take care of myself and my responsibilities. Learn 6 Basics of Boundaries and 7 Steps to Creating Boundaries.
Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it’s selfish, or that it’s not necessary?
We talk about how important it is to have support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can come up in religious culture through healing, how to know we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey. It’s packed with awesomeness!
Perfectionism can be something we have had our whole life, or it can come from the onset of betrayal. Perfection around body image and making everything we do mean something about our worth and value is dangerous.
Alana and Amie talk about how important hope is in the healing journey, but also how an unwise amount of hope can work against us. Learning to navigate this can greatly impact how we move forward.
Triggers are a huge part of healing and also just a huge part of being human. Learning how to tame those triggers is a skill worth developing. Hali shares her thoughts and tools on how to do just that! When the spouse who has been betrayed has these triggers, it’s often frustrating and confusing to the other partner and can often cause further damage.
I do my best to debunk all the excuses that we make for not implementing self care into our healing and into our lives. Let
If you have experienced Betrayal in your life, from a relationship, this is no joke and extremely painful . We are born with the innate
I remember feeling like I had to respond and answer and correct and clarify every email, every text and it was exhausting. It consumed my
This is a scary word to so many- Pornography isn’t going away and we are learning more and more about how it can be addictive
There is no doubt pornography effects the marriage relationship in so many ways that you may not have even realized yet. Whether you are just
Most of us have one….a manual that is. We have a manual for our children, our spouse, our family, and even one for the holidays.
It’s the healing power of gratitude that I believe in! Once upon a time the thought of being alone scared me, I felt broken and
Welcome to the Choose To Be Podcast! At Choose Recovery, we are committed to your healing. You’re invited to be part of the conversation and
We have been learning more about the cute little personality of our new little puppy. She is so funny and lately she has been afraid
Sometimes when things are not going as planned, we lose our trust in men, in friends, in clergy, in God, and in ourselves. I often hear women say, “I just don’t trust anyone.”
What if… you honored what your brain is doing – trying to protect you and help you see there is a reason to not trust. What if… it’s okay not to trust right now. What if… you just allowed yourself to honor the space you are in rather than thinking you have to or are supposed to be trusting.
The truth is, you are a trusting person and you had someone take advantage of that trust. Right now, its okay to allow space to just get your bearings again, to get a better grip on your own reality, and then… then we start the work of learning to trust again.
And guess what? It begins with trusting yourself!
No more second guessing your gut instinct. You CAN be in a place where you are so in tune with your body, your thoughts, and your feelings that you learn to trust again.
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