Amie and Alana discuss the basics of the acute stress response fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Understanding these distinct responses can help explain how your experiences show up in your reactions and behavior.
Today was one of those days where, it just is what it is. So we recorded an episode exactly where we were at emotionally!
No matter where you are in your healing, healing is possible. And finding the right support, can be huge in this process.
Today’s bonus episode is an interview Amie did with young single adult women who went through the YSA dating and Self Empowerment course.
Join Amie and Alana as they discuss sexual intimacy in a committed relationship, and the importance of recognizing that your body is your own.
There is never an excuse for abuse. This topic today came from an experience Amie had witnessing an abusive situation in the grocery store parking lot. Enough is enough.
Apologies: what makes a good one, what makes a bad one, and how to start the process of real amends.
Amie shares thoughts about what self love looks like and how it can help you to recognize what healthy intimacy looks like in your relationships. But it all has to start with YOU.
You may be surprised after hearing this episode to learn more about what self compassion is, and is not. They walk through some common myths about self compassion and of course share real life examples of how they have struggled to practice implementing this in their own lives, but how it works when they do!
When you really start latching on to this new world of learning and understanding your trauma and addiction, finding safe circles and safe people and really start to put the puzzle pieces together it starts to create this level of understanding awareness and safety, and It becomes this huge relief!
Self Betrayal is saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” self sabotaging, ignoring basic needs and self care, lying to yourself, not taking accountability for your actions, and pretending to be something other than your authentic self.
Guest Kristen Watson talks about how often women feel they not only have no idea what their style even is anymore or feel overwhelm when they go shopping which often leads right to self hate, body hate and we stop looking at ourselves. Women have more negative self talk in the dressing room than any other place we go!
Learning to recognize when you are NOT grounded, centered and in the present is half the battle. This can be difficult to do at first, so no self judgement here! Being aware of how this shows up for you is the first step. We discuss some common signs that can give us this warning.
How trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them.
When you have been a victim of someone else’s choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it’s understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it’s a place we can often judge ourselves in.
Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn’t stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong.
Two of Amie’s clients talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again.
Amie and Alana continue their conversation to those who have loved ones that are trying to understand more of what you, the betrayed, are experiencing. Sometimes it’s hard to put into words when you yourself are still trying to figure it out! So we hope that this episode also helps you too.
This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner, It’s so hard to explain to others what exactly you are or have been experiencing. Often times others might not believe you or know how to help you in your …
Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn’t doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression…
The importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand, and where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more.
Boundaries are what I will do or will not do to take care of myself and my responsibilities. Learn 6 Basics of Boundaries and 7 Steps to Creating Boundaries.
Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it’s selfish, or that it’s not necessary?
We talk about how important it is to have support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can come up in religious culture through healing, how to know we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey. It’s packed with awesomeness!
Sometimes when things are not going as planned, we lose our trust in men, in friends, in clergy, in God, and in ourselves. I often hear women say, “I just don’t trust anyone.”
What if… you honored what your brain is doing – trying to protect you and help you see there is a reason to not trust. What if… it’s okay not to trust right now. What if… you just allowed yourself to honor the space you are in rather than thinking you have to or are supposed to be trusting.
The truth is, you are a trusting person and you had someone take advantage of that trust. Right now, its okay to allow space to just get your bearings again, to get a better grip on your own reality, and then… then we start the work of learning to trust again.
And guess what? It begins with trusting yourself!
No more second guessing your gut instinct. You CAN be in a place where you are so in tune with your body, your thoughts, and your feelings that you learn to trust again.
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