Alana and Amie get REAL Vulnerable
Today was one of those days where, it just is what it is. So we recorded an episode exactly where we were at emotionally!
Recovery
Where Am I At In My Healing From Betrayal?
No matter where you are in your healing, healing is possible. And finding the right support, can be huge in this process.
Sexual Intimacy – Your Body is Your Body
Join Amie and Alana as they discuss sexual intimacy in a committed relationship, and the importance of recognizing that your body is your own.
Abuse, no excuse: To the woman on the other end of the phone
There is never an excuse for abuse. This topic today came from an experience Amie had witnessing an abusive situation in the grocery store parking lot. Enough is enough.
Happy Love You Forever Day
Amie shares thoughts about what self love looks like and how it can help you to recognize what healthy intimacy looks like in your relationships. But it all has to start with YOU.
Understanding Self Compassion
You may be surprised after hearing this episode to learn more about what self compassion is, and is not. They walk through some common myths about self compassion and of course share real life examples of how they have struggled to practice implementing this in their own lives, but how it works when they do!
Effects from Betrayal Trauma
So many women minimize their own trauma and so many other people minimize a woman’s trauma. There are very real consequences from the effects of someone else’s actions.
Trauma on the Brain and Body
How trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them.
Stepping Into Thriving
When you have been a victim of someone else’s choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it’s understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it’s a place we can often judge ourselves in.
A Not So Silent Night
Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn’t stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong.
Trusting Yourself Again – Boundaries
One of the elements of trust is respecting boundaries. I can trust you when you respect my boundaries and you can trust me when I respect yours. But what about having and respecting boundaries with yourself?
When Holiday Traditions Change
Whether this Christmas is different because of trauma and grief or you are now a single mom, the traditions that we used to have can most often not be something we want to do anymore, or we are not able to do them the way we used to anymore.
Helping Loved Ones Better Understand Trauma
This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner, It’s so hard to explain to others what exactly you are or have been experiencing. Often times others might not believe you or know how to help you in your …
Hurting Your Own Feelings?
Yep, this one will either make your head hurt or make you hate me haha. Today I want to offer you a different way to think about your hurt and pain in your life. Many of my clients are struggling with feeling of hurt and they have been stuck in this place for a while, …
Comparison
Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn’t doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression…
Common Mistakes We Make With Boundaries
The importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand, and where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more.
Making Space For Self Pity
We are told how it’s not good to ask “Why” when something happens in out life that’s tragic or hard. What if it’s ok, what if there is nothing wrong with thinking and feeling this?
Growing Your Brain
We actually need hard things in order to grow our brain. When we don’t practice thinking harder thoughts we will continue to get the same result.
Power in Giving Yourself Permission
Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it’s selfish, or that it’s not necessary?
Even a Life Coach Needs a Life Coach!
Sometimes people think that because I am a life coach that I have all thee tools and concepts mastered and therefore my brain doesn’t work like everyone else’s brain.
Perfectionism
Perfectionism can be something we have had our whole life, or it can come from the onset of betrayal. Perfection around body image and making everything we do mean something about our worth and value is dangerous.
Healing With Hope
Alana and Amie talk about how important hope is in the healing journey, but also how an unwise amount of hope can work against us. Learning to navigate this can greatly impact how we move forward.
Love Is Always an Option
As I stared into these little puppy dog eyes feeling so frustrated that she wouldn’t do what I wanted her to do, I realized that I could feel frustrated, or choose to feel love.
When we can’t control things in our lies it’s easy to let the negative emotions of that overcome us. It’s hard sometimes to choose love.
Today I share some thoughts about how to do this and who it really benefits.
Learn To Doubt Your Self Doubts
Our ability to grow is only limited by our Self Doubt. So what are you afraid of if you make this change or set this goal? What is your brain making it mean if you stop doing something that you have been doing for years?! Why is it doubting your ability to change this thing?
