Whether it’s with your ex or someone else in your life that is unhealthy, we can stay tied to them and feel dragged through the mud and wonder why or how to stop it.
Today I share an idea that came to my mind when I asked this same question. I want to show you how to untie the rope and start taking your power back.
So many women minimize their own trauma and so many other people minimize a woman’s trauma. There are very real consequences from the effects of someone else’s actions.
Many women who experience betrayal and have their life turned upside down are now trying to navigate the future that’s filled with unknowns.
Its so important to prepare for that future with all its unknowns. Learn a 4 step process to help you get started creating YOUR life.
One of the elements of trust is respecting boundaries. I can trust you when you respect my boundaries and you can trust me when I respect yours. But what about having and respecting boundaries with yourself?
Whether this Christmas is different because of trauma and grief or you are now a single mom, the traditions that we used to have can most often not be something we want to do anymore, or we are not able to do them the way we used to anymore.
We are told how it’s not good to ask “Why” when something happens in out life that’s tragic or hard. What if it’s ok, what if there is nothing wrong with thinking and feeling this?
How many of you have triggers and hate them? How many times have you shamed yourself or blamed someone for your trauma response?
Triggers are a very real part of trauma and learning how to respond to your triggers is a huge part of the healing journey.
We often look at self care as a to do list- things we have to do to care for ourselves. Our brain likes to then point out to us all the things we are not doing to care for ourselves…
As I stared into these little puppy dog eyes feeling so frustrated that she wouldn’t do what I wanted her to do, I realized that I could feel frustrated, or choose to feel love.
When we can’t control things in our lies it’s easy to let the negative emotions of that overcome us. It’s hard sometimes to choose love.
Today I share some thoughts about how to do this and who it really benefits.
Our ability to grow is only limited by our Self Doubt. So what are you afraid of if you make this change or set this goal? What is your brain making it mean if you stop doing something that you have been doing for years?! Why is it doubting your ability to change this thing?
Women are wondering how to trust not only their spouse again but how to trust themselves again.
You might have a partner that is doing the work and getting the help but how do we go about trusting again? do I trust him? When do I start trusting him?
The word GRIEF alone creates some negative emotions, let alone actually experiencing all the emotions that are apart of the grief cycle. It’s something that we all as humans try to avoid at every cost!
I had a client who had decided that divorce was the next best step for her and her situation- and at the same time she wanted to know how to not become bitter towards her spouse as she moved towards divorce and I thought that was such a great question. So I want to talk about how to overcome bitterness in my message today.
I hear so many women say- my life is a mess, I hate it, i just want to fix this mess, how did it get to be such a mess? Today i want to challenge these thoughts and offer a new thought. What if you could love yourself in the mess? What if the mess doesn’t mean anything about YOU?
Your life is worth living, no matter the circumstances. We don’t see all we have done and all we are doing and all that God has in store for us to do in this life. Despite how many dreams and life expectations we may see dwindle away, despite how many old man potters in our …
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We have been learning more about the cute little personality of our new little puppy. She is so funny and lately she has been afraid of her own shadow! She will walk outside to go to the bathroom and she will hear the leaves blowing and run back inside. If she hears a car drive …
It’s the healing power of gratitude that I believe in! Once upon a time the thought of being alone scared me, I felt broken and it gave me anxiety. I didn’t know how I was going to do it. It was through small thought shifts that gave me POWER TO HEAL. Driving down the road, …
Most of us have one….a manual that is. We have a manual for our children, our spouse, our family, and even one for the holidays. Instructions for how they should or shouldn’t behave, what they should say or NOT say, how things should go and what we should do and how we should react. This …
There is no doubt pornography effects the marriage relationship in so many ways that you may not have even realized yet. Whether you are just now discovering your partners behavior or you are trying to heal the marriage, I want you to know that this healing is a 3 part process. His, Yours, Ours. If …
This is a scary word to so many- Pornography isn’t going away and we are learning more and more about how it can be addictive and effects the brain the same way cocaine does. We as moms can come together and help our children fight too. But we need to become educated about what it …
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I remember feeling like I had to respond and answer and correct and clarify every email, every text and it was exhausting. It consumed my time. It created anger and frustration and doubt and worry and panic and fear to just name a few, I could not see the circumstances in any other way but …
If you have experienced Betrayal in your life, from a relationship, this is no joke and extremely painful . We are born with the innate desire to connect with other humans. We begin very early in life determining who we can trust and who we can’t. When the ones we thought we could trust break …
I do my best to debunk all the excuses that we make for not implementing self care into our healing and into our lives. Let me convince YOU! If you would like to work with Amie you can schedule a free 25 minute visit at https://choose.clientsecure.me/request/clinician Get my FREE 3-day video training series “Learn to Trust Again”.
Are you having a hard time believing this? I did too. So many women do and those who have experienced betrayal trauma and abuse experience even more opportunities to believe the lies offered that they are not enough. In this episode I hope to help you begin to believe differently and see that YOU ARE …
Sometimes when things are not going as planned, we lose our trust in men, in friends, in clergy, in God, and in ourselves. I often hear women say, “I just don’t trust anyone.”
What if… you honored what your brain is doing – trying to protect you and help you see there is a reason to not trust. What if… it’s okay not to trust right now. What if… you just allowed yourself to honor the space you are in rather than thinking you have to or are supposed to be trusting.
The truth is, you are a trusting person and you had someone take advantage of that trust. Right now, its okay to allow space to just get your bearings again, to get a better grip on your own reality, and then… then we start the work of learning to trust again.
And guess what? It begins with trusting yourself!
No more second guessing your gut instinct. You CAN be in a place where you are so in tune with your body, your thoughts, and your feelings that you learn to trust again.
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